5 signs she’s into you

5 signs she’s into you


By Cate Mitchell

You and a pretty redhead are tucked away in a corner table at that impossible-to-get-into new French bistro. And lo and behold, you notice she’s laughing at your jokes, twirling her hair, and giving other crystal-clear signs she’s into you. Or is she? Problem is, it can be hard to tell sometimes whether a woman is truly interested or just going through the motions. But luckily, there are plenty of ways to tell the difference. The signs below are the real deal.

1. She touches herself up

If she’s excusing herself to the restroom between courses, it’s doubtful she has a weak bladder. Nope, more likely she’s in there freshening up her makeup or making sure her hair is in place... all for you. “If she’s into you, she’ll be concerned with how she looks,” says Alison James, author of the forthcoming Better Off Wed? “Or, if she’s at the table, she’ll be fixing her shirt or brushing her hair back, maybe checking that her bra strap isn’t showing or adjusting her necklace — the kind of stuff you do when you’re worried about your appearance.”

2. She asks about your family


“When a woman likes a guy, she doesn’t want to get to know just him,” says Jillian Straus, author of Unhooked Generation: The Truth About Why We’re Still Single. “She wants to know about his family and friends — she’s looking for clues about what life with him would be like.” Indeed, especially if you’ve been set up or are on a blind date and know very little about each other, your relationship with your family says a lot about you — and a woman interested in you won’t hesitate to probe. “I think family is very revealing about a person’s personality,” says Tina Andreadis, 35, of New York City. “If he’s close with his family, it shows that he’s probably a warm person who values relationships and who would want a family of his own. If I am not interested in him, I won’t even ask because I just don’t care.”

3. She’s attentive

Let’s put it this way: no matter how busy she is, she’s not whipping out her BlackBerry if she’s interested in what you have to say. “If she’s not checking her watch, email or cell phone, it’s just one more sign that she’s paying attention to you,” says James. “When you like a guy, you’re hanging on his every word. When you don’t, you’re distracted easily.” Same goes for any preoccupations she has with the immediate environment, whether she’s people-watching or admiring the restaurant décor or even the food. If she’s saying things like, “This restaurant is beautiful. Hey, doesn’t that girl over there look like Marisa Tomei?” she may be enjoying herself, but not necessarily because you’re there.


4. She’s touchy-feely

If you find your date engaging in a little physical contact along with witty banter, chances are you’ve made a very good impression. From tapping your knee to emphasize a point or touching your forearm to get your attention, if a woman’s attracted to you, she won’t hesitate to reach out and let you know. Megan, 35, from New York City, employs this trick with guys she finds attractive. “I pretend to steady myself when I don’t need to be steadied,” she says. “When I’m climbing onto a stool, I’ll grab onto his shoulder or leg when I clearly don’t need to,” she laughs.

5. The date lasts longer than you expected

Ask any woman desperate to wind down a date, and she’ll tell you she skips dessert or declines an after-dinner stroll. Naturally, then, if she’s having a great time and doesn’t want to see you go, she’ll gladly take the waiter’s suggestion and try the chocolate cake, or join you in the cab ride home. And if you’ve agreed to meet for coffee and after a few sips she takes you up on your offer of dinner? That’s a bright green light, my friend. “Only if I’m into the guy will I agree to go to dinner if he suggests it on a ‘meet for coffee’ date,” says Diana, a 38-year-old from Boston. “If I’m meeting a guy and I’m not into him, I’m definitely not going to agree to get food after.”

So now that you know the signs that she’s really enjoying your time together, use them! Ask her for another date, have a goodnight hug or smooch... and things should move in a most positive direction.

Cate Mitchell is a freelance writer in New York City.

Article courtesy of Happen magazine, www.happenmag.com.

GOODBYE Xiao Pai, 9 Mar 2001 - 18/2/2011.

My bitch (female dog) SPITZ, Xiao Pai passed away today after battling cancer for 1 year.  She's 2 weeks short of her 10th birthday.  Hard to believe she was by my side for 10 years (since I was 21 years old).   Many many memories with her.  From 1 month old puppy till today, her fateful day.  May it rest in peace.

 Xiao Pai enjoying car ride.  But pity her. Car ride = Trip to Vet or Pet Hospital.

 THIS IS the Cancer growth that KILLED her...  It spread to the WHOLE LEG, till unusable.  Due to our delay/hesitate, today, it's too late to Amputate it.  The Cancer spread.


Here's her FULL photo gallery:


http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=252182&id=537630070&l=d40fc12867

ONCE AGAIN, Goodbye, we'll be missing you...

What is Valentine Day? Read on...

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY EVERYONE!!!

Q: What is Valentine's Day?  Is it Related to Christianity? 
A: NO.

Do read on...

Valentines day is a custom whose origins could stem from any number of places. One belief is that the tradition began when St. Valentine himself passed notes to the jailer's daughter (please read the story below). Another story is that children used to pass notes to St. Valentine while he was in jail. He was so popular that even after his death the children still placed noted through the bars in his empty cell. A third story as to the origin of passing out cards stems from a French Count who was captured and imprisoned in London. From his cell he wrote his wife letters, including a passionate set of poems which he sent to her in February.

 St Valentine's Story...  

(Source Unknown)

 

Let me introduce myself. My name is Valentine. I lived in Rome during the third century. That was long, long ago! At that time, Rome was ruled by an emperor named Claudius. I didn't like Emperor Claudius, and I wasn't the only one! A lot of people shared my feelings because he was cruel.

Claudius wanted to have a big army. He expected men to volunteer to join. Many men just did not want to fight in wars. They did not want to leave their wives and families. As you might have guessed, not many men signed up. This made Claudius furious. So what happened? He had a crazy idea. He thought that if men were not married, they would not mind joining the army. So Claudius decided not to allow any more marriages. Young people thought his new law was cruel. I thought it was preposterous! I certainly wasn't going to support that law!

Did I mention that I was a priest? One of my favourite activities was to marry couples. Even after Emperor Claudius passed his law, I kept on performing marriage ceremonies -- secretly, of course. It was really quite exciting. Imagine a small candlelit room with only the bride and groom and myself. We would whisper the words of the ceremony, listening all the while for the steps of soldiers.

One night, we did hear footsteps. It was scary! Thank goodness the couple I was marrying escaped in time. I was caught. (Not quite as light on my feet as I used to be, I guess.) I was thrown in jail and told that my punishment was death.

I tried to stay cheerful. And do you know what? Wonderful things happened. Many young people came to the jail to visit me. They threw flowers and notes up to my window. They wanted me to know that they, too, believed in love.

One of these young people was the daughter of the prison guard. Her father allowed her to visit me in the cell. Sometimes we would sit and talk for hours. She helped me to keep my spirits up. She agreed that I did the right thing by ignoring the Emperor and going ahead with the secret marriages. On the day I was to die, I left my friend a little note thanking her for her friendship and loyalty. I signed it, "Love from your Valentine."

I believe that note started the custom of exchanging love messages on Valentine's Day. It was written on the day I died, February 14, 269 A.D. Now, every year on this day, people remember. But most importantly, they think about love and friendship. And when they think of Emperor Claudius, they remember how he tried to stand in the way of love, and they laugh -- because they know that love can't be beaten!

END OF ARTICLE...

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100th post: ARTICLE: Chick magnets

The Star LIFESTYLE: Saturday February 12, 2011

Chick magnets

Stories by LEE MEI LI
meili@thestar.com.my

Dogs are not only lovable companions, they can also help you attract attention from the right crowd.

It’s bright and early on a Saturday morning, and T. Siva is out walking his tiny, 3½-year-old Pug, Pugly. A lady struts past, but not before she does a double take.

“He’s so cute!” she coos, as Pugly happily pitter-patters away on the pavement.

Kumanan Parimalam and girlfriend Sattiya Marthanden with Labrador, Sweetie.

 

Undoubtedly, nothing attracts attention faster than a pet lover and an adorable pup in tow. What usually ensues is a friendly exchange of words — a moment that marks the discovery of new acquaintances.
“I think there’s no doubt that Pugly attracts women,” says Siva, 36, a writer. “She seldom fails. In fact, she even attracts celebrities. Once, I was walking Pugly at a park when a certain celebrity, who was also out walking three of her Pugs, ran over to say hi and we started chatting. My friends have a nickname for Pugly: ‘The Magnet’.”

Aside from being great companions, dogs are sometimes known as “chick magnets”. Just Google “How to use my dog to attract women”, and sure enough, you’ll get a thousand hits on forums dedicated to showing you the A-to-Z in mastering the subject. If you’re single and eligible, chances are, you won’t be getting any strangers walking up to you just to strike up a conversation every day. Nor would you do the same, no matter how attractive the other person may be.

But if you have a dog by your side, well, that’s a different story.

“Women would see you differently, as opposed to if you were just alone at a café. Most times they see my dog first, then they look at me and smile — as if to say, OK, you’re quite safe to talk to,” says Siva.
Attributing this to a woman’s “maternal instincts”, Siva adds, “I guess having a dog is like having a daughter or a son — you suddenly seem capable of having kids.”

Leong Suet Wah with Miniature Pinscher, Xiao Xiao. 

 

Men who own dogs aren’t just pet lovers, it seems — they are perceived to be someone who is generally more loving and caring. However, “caring” wasn’t the first thought that came to mind when Yap Wan Ying first met her then-colleague, video editor Kam Chee Lap, 30, and Christmas, his Toy Poodle.

“My first impression was ‘How pathetic!’ He doesn’t have a girlfriend — he’s just a guy with a dog,” recalls media executive Yap, 24.

Nevertheless, Yap would always fawn over Christmas whenever Kam brought the tiny, snow-white pup to the office for a quick visit on the weekends.

“I found Christmas very cute! He quickly became the centre of attraction in the office,” says Yap.
Before long, Yap found herself making plans to meet up with Kam to visit Christmas beyond work.
“I would go to his house or meet him at a park because I wanted to play with the dog,” she says.
Now, more than three years later, Yap no longer deems Kam “pathetic” — well, he’s now her boyfriend and all. Undeniably, their relationship developed over the love for a dog. The two are now also the proud owners of a two-year-old Pomeranian, Cooper.

Yap Wan Ying (right) and Kam Chee Lap with their Pomeranian, Cooper and Toy Poodle, Christmas.

 

“Kam seemed like a loner at first but when I got to know him better, I realised that he was someone that I could rely on,” Yap reveals, highlighting Kam’s commitment in caring for his pet.

“Taking care of a dog is not that easy. But every weekend, he would spend four to five hours just to bathe and groom Christmas. It showed me that he had a lot of patience,” she adds.

Lopsided attraction

If dogs are chick magnets for men, it follows that they also naturally become male magnets for women, right? Wrong.

Handicraft artist C. L. Yam and her 2½-year-old Miniature Schnauzer, Marco, only attracts “aunties and uncles”. Her explanation for this? “Eligible bachelors hardly hang around at parks,” says Yam, who is in her 30s.

For Samantha Hepburn and her six-year-old Miniature Schnauzer, Jang Gun, all they ever attract are kids and “sometimes, a curious grandma or two.” The 25-year-old writer and cartoonist believes that the doggie philosophy is more biased towards guys.

“I don’t think it works for girls. Plus, I don’t know how comfortable I’d be with a guy cooing, sighing and fawning all over my dog,” she opines.

Property negotiator Leong Suet Wah, 54, does attract the attention of men with her little Miniature Pinscher, Xiao Xiao, albeit for entirely different reasons.

“When Xiao Xiao was very small, I would put her in a bag and bring her shopping. Once, I entered a pharmacy and a security guard waved me over — I thought maybe I couldn’t bring her in. But all the guard said was, ‘Can I hold her?’” Leong recalls.

While dogs may appear to be more of a man’s best friend than a woman’s, Leong believes that the trick could work with either gender for the younger generation.
“If you’re younger and you have a dog, you’ll definitely attract more attention from the opposite sex. It happens all the time during doggie tournaments,” she says.

You are what you own

Now before you run out and grab the first dog you see, do consider a few things beforehand.
Bigger dogs, for example, can be a handful — they need lots of free space and plenty of exercise. They need a lot of your time. Small toy breeds, on the other hand, are considered to be more “convenient”.

Samantha Hepburn with Jang Gun. — ART CHEN & BRIAN MOH/The Star and DOG OWNERS

 

Big or small, the real question is: What will people think of when they cross paths with you and your dog?
Sales manager Kumanan Parimalam, 26, believes that you are what you own.

“The way you communicate with a particular breed shows people who you are.
For me, I like big dogs because I like to be dominant,” he says, giving his panting Labrador, Sweetie, a pet on the head.

On this, his girlfriend Sattiya Marthanden, 27, agrees.

“Men who own small dogs are more of a ‘follower’,” says the enquiry officer. For Hepburn, men with a penchant for purse-sized pooches appear to be less “outdoorsy”. Conversely, women who own Chihuahuas and Poodles reflect a “prissy” personality, says Siva.

The type of dog you choose also determines whether you are indeed single or attached, so be sure to send out the right signals.

“If a guy walks around with a Shih-Tzu, I will think that he already has a girlfriend,” says Yap.
Undeniably, different breeds will attract different kinds of people.

“If you have a smaller dog, I think you would attract more women, teenage girls and children. For medium-sized dogs like mine, the target audience is mixed. For larger dogs, they only attract people who are brave enough to approach them, unless they look adorable — like Huskies,” Kumanan observes.
Nevertheless, Kumanan believes that a well-trained pup attracts more people on the whole — men or women.

“Popular breeds automatically attract people to you,” he says.

While owning smaller dogs may seem less “macho” for men, the fact is, women are usually attracted to all things cute and cuddly. Besides, Hollywood stars Mickey Rourke and Sean “P. Diddy” Combs have made it OK for men to own smaller dogs; Rourke’s Chihuahua has since passed on; Combs has a little white Maltese.

Bigger dogs are definitely more masculine, but they are also less friendly looking and more likely to scare away any potential soulmate you might be hoping to snare. Nevertheless, getting a dog is not a surefire way of attracting a potential girlfriend or boyfriend. What ensues really depends on you, and not your dog — so brush up on your conversational skills and learn how to use your pup as an icebreaker, and not as the topic of discussion in every conversation.

Remember also that dogs need plenty of love and care from a responsible owner. They may not always help you attract company, but they’re always great companions.

Think about adopting a dog this Valentine’s Day, who knows what joy it might bring you?

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My 1st cheque from NUFFNANG!!! Thanks NUFFNANG!!!

Today, 7 February 2011, I received my 1st cheque from my dear advertiser, NUFFNANG. Thank You NUFFNANG!!!   

 I was sad and happy.  "Sad" because I cashed out December 22 BUT the cheque came in AFTER Chinese New Year. (Ie. >30 days). Happy because it's RM315 and I just banked in the cheque.

Here's the proof:  A PHOTO of the CHEQUE:

THANK YOU VERY MUCH AGAIN NUFFNANG!!! 

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Happy Chinese New Year of the Rabbit

I, Jeff Lim would like to wish all readers of my blog Happy Chinese New Year of the Rabbit.  Gong Xi Fa Cai, Waan Shi Ru Yi...

Since this is the year of the rabbit, I present you some photos of rabbits:

Above: Self explainatory.  First thing I taught of when I think of Rabbit...

 Above and Below: My Favourite rabbit species.  White Holland Lops...  The ears reminds me of my Labrador, Pluto.

 Above: Ordinary Grey Rabbit.  Below, another species of Holland Lop rabbit.

Before I go, I present to you this:  Inverted "FOOK" ("FU").   Means prosperity comes in...

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